I rush around the huge room that I am staying in, in my stocking feet. I wear the black tuxedo, replete with the white shirt, cummerbund, and bow tie. I have splashed a little Nautica cologne on my face and on pulse points on my body. The search to find my shoes seems futile.
A familiar, gruff voice behind me suddenly startles me, when I hear, “You better hurry up. You would be late for your own funeral.”
I turn around and see my father standing in front of me, holding my shoes out for me.
I take the shoes, sit in a chair, and put them on over the silk argyle socks I wear.
“Daddy,” I say, “I can’t go through with this.”
“You have to,” my father answers. “It’s too late to back out now.”
I arise after putting on the shoes, and look at myself in the full length mirror that not only spans the height and depth of the huge closet, but also the width of it. Although I recognize the face and the body of the man standing in front of it as me, I don’t recognize the man in the mirror at all. I am a stranger to his fear and to his hesitation.
“But, Daddy, I don’t even know…” I begin.
My father tells me, “Boy, you better get out there and go do it.”
I walk from the room and then enter the sanctuary of a huge church, lit with sunlight, streaming in from the huge windows on the side and the bay windows at the front, which show the blue waters of an ocean.
As I stand there, I can hear the people sitting in the congregation talking, whispering in barely audible tones that only I can hear. They are all talking about me and their conversation smells of money like the clothing that the landed gentry are wearing.
“I have no idea why she chose to marry him,” one woman says, “surely, she could do better.”
Everyone seems to murmur their assent.
I realize as I begin to walk in, that I have not even seen my bride before, and don’t know who I am marrying or why I am marrying her. I realize that none of her friends, or family members, likes me. Does she even like me herself?
I start to turn around and walk back on, but my father urges me to “Go on, son. You can do it.”
I awaken with a start, realizing that I don’t have my father anymore, and that I don’t have a bride waiting at a church to marry me.
Sometimes, even dreams like this can fill me with terror, like the recurring dreams of being in high school and having to take an algebra test, or the one where I dream of getting on the school bus without my shoes and socks on.
I realize that they are just dreams and nothing to be afraid of because God has not given me a spirit of fear but of power and of love and of a strong mind. (2 Timothy 1:7)
Written by Jacob Bembry, August 10, 2015